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Happy Father’s Day

I had a rough time my senior year in high school, with jerk guys in the halls and an administration that was clueless. My dad doesn’t know this, but just by being a caring and strong father and a wonderful husband to my mom he helped me in ways even I didn’t know until later in life.

As a woman growing up in an age when it is okay to hate men, when some really are jerks, to have a father who is good man, a real man, is important. Because of him, I didn’t grow up hating men. It could have been easy for me to do that.

He is also the one that introduced me to science and science fiction. Where would the world be if Ami Chopine hadn’t fallen in love with Isaac Asimov? And Orson Scott Card, who ended up being a real life mentor to me. Well, I guess the world would still be exactly where it is now, but I wouldn’t be enjoying it nearly as much.

I remember being small enough that he could carry me. I always felt very protected in his arms. 

He used to be a deep sea diver, and would be gone for weeks at a time. One night his coming home woke me up. Instead of sending us straight to bed, he played with my sister and I, crawling around on his hands and knees with us on his back. 

When I was a teenager he was my Sunday School teacher, and he was one of the best I had. He taught me about the Atonement and repentance, and what a blessing that is as we strive to continually improve ourselves.

I remember him growing his hair out long and a mustache in order to take the pressure off a young man at church. He kind of looked like John Lennon.  

He always cared about the feelings of others. He liked to tease, but would make sure the person knew it was out of friendship and love.

He calls me Frank. It’s about my middle name, and maybe my silly behavior as a kid. I just wasn’t a very delicate little girl, even though I was always small.

I had to laugh at the reaction of any boys who came calling to me at home when they first saw Dad, who is not a skinny 6’4″. But yes, I felt protected then too.

His meticulous attention to detail in his work – he is a carpenter - is an inspiration to me.  If ever I succeed in my career as a writer, one of the biggest reasons will be because of that work ethic that he taught me. Talent is nothing, in fact it is hubris, without humble care to even the small things.

Thanks, Dad. I love you.

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5 comments

  1. My father is also the one that exposed me to science fiction. A caring father is very much an important part of raising kids. That is why I am so sad when I see people not appreciating the role of fathers.

  2. Hi Ami,

    Nice tribute to your dad. Very well done.

    But, hummm… I’ve looked high. And I’ve looked low. I’ve read about half your blog and — unless I missed it — I didn’t find a post about the book you’re writing.

    I did see mention of some sci fi short stories and that you were thinking about doing a novel. But I could swear I read somewhere you were working on a health-related non-fiction book, as well.

    Perhaps one of these days you could tell us more about it. (Unless you already have and I was just too dumb to find it.) 🙂

    Interesting blog by the way. I look forward to reading more.

    – Dean

  3. Oh, BTW, I’ve created a special category just for fellow writers on my blogroll and added you to it. I hope you don’t mind the header.

    (I have this recurring dream where I actually develop a sense of humor… but then I wake up.)

  4. Well Frank that is the best father’s day present that I’ve ever good. Kind of embarrassing for the world to see. But thank you Love Dad

  5. A wonderful tribute to Dad. If only the world could know him really…if more people could be like him- wise, thoughtful, caring, serious and fun at the same time…and so much more…what a world it would be. He’s the kind of guy you know isn’t perfect, but all of the good he does, the lives he touches just makes you forget about anything bad. Thanks for “embarassing (him) for the world to see.” 🙂

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