I’ve seen both versions of the Stepford Wives, the one from the seventies and the more recent Kidman version. Neither viewing was very recent, but I’m going off what this movie has symbolized to us, now. The thing that this movie failed to note is that men are real people too. I’m also bothered by the wayÂ it seems to denounce the concept of a woman who works hard in the home.
First point: MenÂ aren’t usually the caricatures portrayed in the movies, losing their minds at the prospect of having someone that looks like their wife, but is really a robot slave dream come true. If I have to explain that any more, then something is wrong. (Sadly, viewing mainstream media would suggest that something is, indeed, wrong with how at least some people view men.)
Second point:Â Us women, we do need to think for ourselves and we do need to develop our talents thatÂ don’t have to do with mothering or homemaking.
But I’ve think that in the rush to be liberated,Â feminist cultureÂ forgot what it meant to be truly partnered and armed with the skills we need to keep our family healthy, happy, and productive.
I’m talking about baking bread and cookies, making our own dinner, volunteering at school, carpooling, giving the husband a massage occasionally,Â creating aÂ generous home where husbandÂ can say “I’m bringing someone over” orÂ I can inviteÂ my ownÂ friends at the last minuteÂ without panic or shame, or plan things for a while andÂ throw aÂ party for friends and neighbors.
This kind of thing takes work, and it takes hard work that no one butÂ a woman’sÂ family and maybe some neighbors will recognize her for. This doesn’t make it a waste, though.
I started making bread recently, and I did it for a few reasons. It’s yummier, cheaper, and I become less dependent on the corporate machine.Â I amÂ building a food storage for our family.Â Should that corporate structure fail us, and the circumstances for that aren’t too outrageous (earthquake or job loss), IÂ will be prepared to provide for my family.Â Also, this kind of living is less polluting to the earth.
Working hard in the home does bring monetary value into the finances of the family, but instead of it being more money it is being able to spend less money.
So much of what it means to be a woman really is tied up in raising a family, whether we go to work or not. We can’t divorce ourselves from that.
But also, so much of what it means to be a man is also deeply tied up in raising a family.
Anyway, I’m just rant/rambling with very little point.
Well, no… here is the point:Â don’t be afraid to have true devotion for and work hard in the home for your husband and your children. It doesn’t make you a stepford wife.
Next in this line of thinking, but maybe not the next blog: One of my heroes was a polygamous wife who was a doctor.